To interfere or not

We have had an ongoing off and on issue I have bugging me.

Should I call the school now or wait until the school year is done is the question I have been working on.  Elizabeth wants me to wait and Ella has just started noticing the issue.

And I could very well be very sensitive to this issue due to the bullying  Ella received at her prior school.

My kids are not getting bullied but they are not totally included.  Ella is starting to say it is because she is Asian.  I don't think that is it but I do think there is a problem.  I wonder if its more because most of each of the girls' classes started together as Kinders and have grown up together.  But Elizabeth tells me the boys are great at including new boys in her class.  Its the girls that don't.  While I realize that is normal girl shit, I am tired of seeing my kids standing on the playground before school starts with no one to talk to.

I want to storm in and make it better but I know I can't. I know that will make it worse and really won't get at the core of the problem.

Is this because they each started at this school after a few years had passed or would the issue still be there if they had started in Kinder?   I think Elizabeth's group of girls are generally clicky and most are kind to Elizabeth but some are not.  Elizabeth does have friends at school but no one calls on the weekends and no one asks her to come over.  She was getting those types of friends at Ramsey and I hope when she gets to Highschool in the Fall that she will get those again.

Ella can go up to the kids at recess and ask to play with them and they say sure, come join us.  But they don't come up to her the next time to ask her if she would like to play.  Ella has to do most of the work and she is starting to question it.  She is feeling left out and I have talked to her teacher but she isn't seeing it when she watches the kids.  Right now Ella is feeling very sensitive to social situations but she is feeling it.  She doesn't want to sit by the girls at lunch because they talk about stuff Ella isn't interested in.  These kids are nice but most are very big into the athletic options at school and that is just not something Ella is interested in.

Educationally my girls are getting a top notch experience.   But socially its not wonderful.

I really want to call the administration and pitch a fit but I will request a meeting with them when school is done.  My concerns are for my kids but also for the school.  Are they missing signs of exclusion or God Forbid, prejudice? I am not sure how to make it better for my kids.  I know  Ella doesn't want to change schools and neither do I.  I just wish she would be included without having to join a sports team.

I wish they had the same experience I did.  I am still close to my best friend from grade school and am so blessed to have close friends from high school too that are still in my life.  I also know this is making my kids stronger and more aware but I would like them to have fun without having to make it a huge deal all the time.