Poor Itty is struggling at school. She is not acting like herself and I have been in discussion with the Principal as well as my social worker from my adoption agency to make a plan on how to help my sweet girl. I don't know what has her worried but she is not herself. There have been alot of changes for her. A new building for her school, longer drive to the new building, stress over getting ready in the morning so I am not late for work, my Dad moving to a new nursing home, Ella starting at a new school, leaving her day care friends and meeting new friends in her class.
Since school started, Elizabeth has gone from stomach aches to behavior so outside her norm that I am taking it serious. I have a feeling its stress over new quizes, tests and spelling words and social / friend stuff. But, we will work through it and help her figure it out. Right now Itty can't verbalize the true root cause of her worry but she is trying. So am I. Today I was able to work through lunch so I could leave work early to get Elizabeth first from school. They were coming in from play and she saw me and started bawling while running to me. It was a moment of deep sadness for her. She had just had some playground stuff going on with one of her best friends and Elizabeth over reacted. Just as she over reacted when she was expressing her sadness to me. I just held her and rubbed her back and let her get it out.
We have talked about big stuff and little stuff related to her day. The one comment she made this morning that struck a cord was when I asked Elizabeth who she sits with at lunch, she said no one. I don't know if that was just one day or many days but it makes me sad for her. I have asked her if anyone is being mean or bullying her and she said no. Thank goodness. But, I'll keep asking.
I love you Elizabeth Grace ShiPing and we will figure this out.
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Oh that is so heartbreaking, I truly hope it is just part of the transition and that she will slowly get more comfortable with the new status quo.
So glad she has a mama that is tuned into her, and is willing to work so hard to help!
Hugs Elizabeth and Joan!
Oh, this just hurts my heart. I know y'all will figure it out - sometimes these September transitions are SO difficult. My best friend's twins are really struggling getting used to kindergarten. They come home in tears most days.
And here I was popping over to say that the husband and I JUST started talking about TV on school nights. We are thinking... no. She's been allowed to watch 30 minutes so far, but it doesn't seem to be working, so now your rule is the push I need to try this and see how it works for us. (How's that for a run-on sentence? Heh.) And the Bratz thing? Oh. My. Lands. I am so with you there.
Praying for you and your sweet girls. This transition time is so tough for many. (((hugs)))
Hang in there and I hope you both find out the true root cause.
As a side note, Malia was pretending to be Ella's mom this morning. It was so funny and I have no idea what brought this to her mind.
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